Decreased Sexual desire
People usually differ in the degree of sexual appetite they have. There is no single standard of sexual desire, and desire differs not only from person to person but also in the same person over one’s lifespan.
One of the most general sexual complaints among couples is a disparity in sexual desire. Sexual desire can be low for a vast variety of cause, many of them psychological and interpersonal. But that doesn’t necessarily make it a disorder. It becomes a diagnosable situation only when it diminishes the superiority of one’s life and creates distress, or a disparity arises in the sex drives of partners, evolving into a matter of unresolved contention in the relationship. Loss of sexual desire can both result from relationship problems and cause them.
Moreover, what constitutes low sexual desire is almost invariably a relative matter. Partners who use the degree of sexual desire experienced early on in a relationship as a standard of comparison may label the drop in sexual desire and activity as a problem that often accompanies longer-term partnerships, when the needs of everyday living tend to prevail. Further, a person who experiences low sexual desires that is problematic relative to one partner may not experience any disparity in desire with a different partner. What is designated as one partner’s low level of desire may more correctly reflect a hyperactive sex drive in the other partner.
Sexual desire and responsiveness usually differ between men and women, and assumptions of sexual equivalency may falsely suggest the existence of hypoactive desire disorder. Men are more readily physiologically aroused than women, and, for them, desire is tied tightly to this arousal. Among women, sexual desire is typically more psychological and situational, influenced by how they feel about their bodies as well as the class of relationship with their partner. Moreover, women often do not experience desire until after they are genitally aroused, and arousal may necessitate an extended period of foreplay.
The waning of sexual desire is sometimes considered inevitable in a long-term relationship, but it is unclear whether that is truly the case or whether it is a function of age or familiarity. Low sexual desire can often be pleasure. Increasingly, experts are optimistic that the sexual spark can stay alive throughout the lifespan.